Monthly Archives: April 2012

Dating a Feminist

My brother is dating a hardcore hipsterish feminist. An attractive woman that has previously sworn off relationship and companionship in order to get rich, preferably by marrying an old rich dude. I avoid all gender conversations except for the occasional slip up, in which case i just stop talking and get on with whatever a was doing. There is no point in arguing anything.

Recently i went out for breakfast with my brother and his girl and afterwards ditched the girl and spent a day with my brother. While driving around i asked him.

Me: How is dating a feminist.

Brother: The sex is great.

And that was it, nothing more needed to be said on that subject. You see my brother is also somewhat of a natural (i blame our common upbringing) that got headbutted into the right direction after a series of unfortunate events regarding his ex, even after he had done everything “right.”

So after reflecting on his answer and his actions, or lack there of, towards his current partner, it all made sense. Her viewpoint on feminism doesn’t bother him because he doesn’t care to hear it, and never treads those waters. He keeps conversation light and teases her constantly and never takes her seriously. She would parade him to family and friends and tout him as her boyfriend, my brother would turn around and never mention her to my family. He does everything the “Game” way. Though he doesn’t buy/care about all the stuff we cover here on all our blogs, he sure made the realization and is living with the core principles.

The funny thing is, she, on the hand, has started to become what she despises…. a dependent, a girlfriend… a woman. Though she still bucks and talks all tough, she sure doesn’t act like it anymore, chanting her convictions during the day, and playing the “wife” at night. I find it amusing how willingly she became this way after having a taste of a real man.

And…..

I can’t help but being proud of my little brother.

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STOP! And Listen.

You know, if you just listen, stop everything you do and just take the time to listen every once in a while, women will reveal to you what they truly want in a man and a relationship without any of that feminazi propaganda.

Surfing random blogs lately i found this gem from a female blogger “The Dandy Gal,” an older post, but still carries a valuable lesson.

In her post she lamented how a certain man she was seeing never took the lead and be a man so to speak. Here’s the SMS conversation she posted with her notes

Him: Free tomorrow?

Me: Ok. You are not working?

Him: Should be.

Me: Ok. Let me know again. I should be free after 4pm.

Him: What do you feel like doing? [strike 1. if you ask me out, you better have a good plan]

Me: I don’t know. We’ll talk when you confirm that you can meet.

Him: Arh? Can’t we discuss it now?

Me: I’m lazy to plan for something that may not happen. Why not you decide instead?

Him: I’ll leave it to u. icon smile Men are Wimps[strike 2]

Me: I don’t like guys who push decisions to girls. Very un-manly.

Him: I’m really easy-going. You can decide. icon smile Men are Wimps[strike 3]

Me: I don’t mean that as a compliment. I don’t know why guys are exchanging roles with girls. They want girls to make decisions now. Sigh.

Him: It’s ok. Haha. Whatever. icon smile Men are Wimps[gone case!]

There’s nothing i can add to help elaborate the texts, its all clear in plain black and white. I think she’s from south east asia, which explains her rather un-orthodox english.

In her post she goes on…

I don’t know why he added those smiley faces. It irritates me even more.

Someone should just knock some sense into men. It’s NOT the first time that I’ve accounted such wishy-washy nonsense with a human that has a dick.

What is happening???

Get this clear. No matter how independent a lady is, she still need aMAN. Not aWIMP.

She’s quite deliberately, against the shrieks of all feminazies in the world, revealing what turns women on.

It’s an age old concept in the halls of blogs like mine, but it never hurts to be reminded of the little things, the fundamentals

You could go through Roissy’s AKA Chateau and find some gems in how to text like a man, Here’s one


Unshakable Frame

So Keith Apicary went and tried out to be some singer’s backing dancer. This guy has an unshakable frame, everything he does, it doesn’t matter what, the people around him wish they’d have his confidence.

You can see in it in the video, he commands the room, everyone cannot keep their eyes off of him, the girls want to be with him and the guys want to be him, this is what game and frame control looks like. You can see his looks are sub-par, so if he can do it, anyone can….. you have no excuse.

Now Enjoy!

http://thechive.com/2012/04/03/there-is-nothing-about-keith-apicarys-music-video-audition-that-is-not-awesome-video/

since i apparently can’t embed videos

http://thechive.com/2012/04/03/there-is-nothing-about-keith-apicarys-music-video-audition-that-is-not-awesome-video/


The Art of Wet Shaving

 Hitched is an aficionado of good old fashioned wet shaving, so i told him to write a post about it. Find it after the jump.

What we have to remember is to take time and pleasure in the little things in life, everything today is rushed, and we lose sight of what’s really important, life and living, pleasure and happiness.

What the Manly Essence is all about is to take back the small pleasures in the daily grind.

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I remember as a kid, being mesmerized watching my dad in front of the bathroom sink and mirror with shaving cream on his face, razor in hand, effortlessly cleaning the whiskers off his face. Even more so was the day I watched my grandfather shave with his little mug, and brush and thick creamy foam overflowing over the top and him using a gorgeous chrome razor to shave.  The smell, the sound..and how it just seemed to be such an important part of their day.

As part of the series of manly activities, lets talk about wet shaving.

The Shaving Ritual, why rush it?

Shaving began losing its appeal the moment it started being treated in a “fast food” sort of fashion. Companies that sell convenience do so by treating the shave as something unpleasant that needs to be dealt with quickly. It doesn’t need to be so, and there’s nothing convenient about a second-rate shave. Advertising offering more and more blades on a razor and alcohol filled gels from aerosol cans have taken the ritual out of shaving and turned it into a burden. As far as electric shavers go…that’s just lazy and the shave truly is sub-par.

Fortunately, men the world over have started to rediscover not only the efficiency but the pleasure of an old-style wet shave. As with all other things, we take pride in doing and time to accomplish and master, wet shaving grants us benefits that outlast a smooth face. The morning shave becomes a time of solace and relaxation. A tradition to be passed on to our sons. A better way to start our day.

Elements of a Classic Shave

The secret to wet shaving is getting yourself a good double-edge razor or straight razor, shaving soap or cream and a shaving brush. Different people prefer different razors and with time you will find the one that works best for you. For starters a medium size, moderately priced, new razor will do the job. I personally use a double edge razor similar to what was common from the 1930’s till the mid 1960’s.

Buy shaving soap or cream from a reputable manufacturer. When you buy from an old English barbershop with 200 years of experience there’s no way to go wrong. As you develop your preferences you can start to experiment with newer brands. If you care for what goes into your shaving products, and ultimately your face and body, you might want to consider shaving soaps over creams because they have fewer preservatives. They also last longer. Stay away from the aerosol type gels and foams, they tend to be full of alcohol and actually dry out your face while you use them.

The shaving brush is the pivotal element of wet shaving. . The brush will massage and exfoliate your skin and the motion required to apply the soap will also lift your hair, preparing if for the shave. For a scrubbier feeling try a brush made of pure or best badger, for a soft touch super badger or silver tip will do the trick.  Trust me on this one, you will love how this works compared to rubbing cream on your face with your hands.

The Learning Curve

As with anything new to you, there will be a learning curve.  If trying a straight razor, it literally can cut through your jugular vein fast and painless as can be, so take your time and be gentle. Your face will thank you. If a double edged razor or safety razor as some call it is your choice, as mine is, there is as well a learning  curve to keeping your face in good shape.  Learning how to get a good lather with your cream or soap, learning to apply it and learning to slow things down and make multiple passes in the right direction are all part of this ritual. In time your morning (or evening as is the case with me) can easily take half hour or more. But why rush?  This is your face after all!

A Better Shave

A lot of us discovered wet shaving while looking for a way to deal with a tough and coarse beard. Wet shaving is not about being a snob, and certainly not a trend or fashion. It is a tradition that has outlasted fads, “revolutionary” solutions and any amount of blades held on plastic contraptions. Wet shaving is simply about a better shave with less irritation and fewer ingrown hairs. An old style double-edge razor or straight razor won’t pull the hairs and cut them below the level of the skin as is the case with multi-blade cartridges, therefore taking better care of your skin and your beard. Also, with an old style safety razor you have the luxury of choosing the sharpness of the blade; so you can find the one that fits you best. With the straight blade (cut throat) razors you can also sharpen the blade to your liking. So it all comes down to control, comfort and noticeably better results.

You will love the feel of your face, you will feel better having taken the time to properly shave…and women will love to touch your face! Best of all, you will keep the manly ritual of shaving your face a pleasure….not a burden.