This happens often in today’s day and age as our instant world shoves instant products in our mouths in order to get instant gratification. As a society we’ve lost all patience for anything that doesn’t happen right now, which have also made us lose appreciation for pretty much all things in life. With today’s computers giving us answers and information sought in nano seconds, and the media and advertisements selling us products to make every task as fast as possible, with instant coffee, instant messaging, fast food and ATM machines we’ve become accustomed to getting everything we want right fucking now at any moment in any day at a simple whim. Multitasking to the extreme, face hundreds of problems and solve hundreds other problems every day. This have shattered the collective patience of our society, and if by some chance we cannot get what we want right fucking now, we get mad, lose patience and move on to the next thing that’ll give us that same or similar gratification.
Which brings me to my next point.
Every so often, i return home from a long business trip, only to realize the girl i was seeing had “moved on.” Moved on? Really? In only 2, 3, 7 or 14 days? Apparently so. Which raises a conundrum for men in my situation. The general consensus is that courting girls requires time and patience as you don’t want to appear desperate. If i don’t push a little she quickly looses patience and moves on to something that is more “right now” yet if i do push a little harder in order to get more of a bond to last over a business trip i get labelled as desperate. Therefore finding the right balance is key, i find, and to achieve this i’ve noticed that what i chose to do with her directly affects where i stand in her scale of desperate/interesting/waste of time. Personally i’ve had to find things that would make us share a greater intellectual/emotional bond, this would allow me not to press her to spend more time together, and it would keep her interest levels high enough to last through long business trips.
Experiment with different activities, and find your sweet spot.