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Cutting your Losses

Often, there comes a time where you need to cut your losses and turn your back on the girl you’ve been pursuing. This point can come within minutes or hours, or the point of no return can come months later.

The reason this is coming up, is because i am at one of these points right now with a girl i’ve been seeing. And i’ve been dragged far beyond my line of no return than i’d like to admit. I think the reason i let myself get to this point is two fold, one, i haven’t met a girl that i’ve meshed with mentally for a very long time, and i guess i got overly excited, two, we started it off so well, everything was text book and she was investing way more into me than i would into her and so on. I also indirectly broke her ankle and she still paid the rounds at the bar that very night.

I’m pretty sure my demised was sealed due to my work schedule when she ushered the words

“Every time you come back, it’s like i have to get to know you all over again.”

I should of probably seen it coming after that, the slight loss in interest, hindsight is after all 20/20, but i let it continue for a couple more turnarounds (the term we use to illustrate our time spent at home) when i should of just spent my time and energy towards other interests.

Though she still seems interested, its way below the level of interest i’d like it to be.

Live and learn, to have clear boundaries and the willpower to follow those without fail is my lesson for the month.

On a brighter note, one door closes 3 more open….. literally.

Later days


Top Dog

Are talk-radio hosts more Alpha than most?

I’ve been on a talk-radio binge lately, tuning into the “Sirius Stars Too” channel on, you guessed it, Sirius satellite radio, interestingly enough i’ve always previously thought talk-radio was a complete waste of time. Why would anyone listen to random people rant about useless shit that’ll never affect my life. Let’s just say i still haven’t changed my mind, but my routine at work needed to be changed a little.

So listening to these bozos talk, Jason Ellis, Covino, Rich and Jay Thomas, i noticed they all had one recurring theme,  they all sounded Alpha as fuck, and treated everyone around them as lesser beings, especially the callers.

Jay Thomas called his woman co-worker “plump” and proceeds to tell her she eats all the wrong things.

Covino called a woman caller entitled, and asks her if she always had a princess attitude.

And Jason is just Jason, hyper dominant.

All this led me to think, are men talk-radio hosts more Alpha than the rest of us. One has to wonder are naturally they are on the radio, or if it’s all an act in order the get more listeners. I’m sure some of it, if not a majority of it is, but they do get some pretty retarded and nasty callers, therefore there has to be some natural Alphaness in there to deal with these kinds of people, i would assume.

I don’t think it’s possible to have a radio persona that goes completely opposite of you natural self outside the radio and at home. But on the other hand i don’t think being the way they are on the radio would fly with most friends and loved ones.

Anyways i’m rambling on. I guess if you want a good example on assholish retorts, how not to take anyone seriously, frame control and general conversational Alphaness, listen to talk-radio.

What do you guys think?


The Art of Wet Shaving

 Hitched is an aficionado of good old fashioned wet shaving, so i told him to write a post about it. Find it after the jump.

What we have to remember is to take time and pleasure in the little things in life, everything today is rushed, and we lose sight of what’s really important, life and living, pleasure and happiness.

What the Manly Essence is all about is to take back the small pleasures in the daily grind.

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I remember as a kid, being mesmerized watching my dad in front of the bathroom sink and mirror with shaving cream on his face, razor in hand, effortlessly cleaning the whiskers off his face. Even more so was the day I watched my grandfather shave with his little mug, and brush and thick creamy foam overflowing over the top and him using a gorgeous chrome razor to shave.  The smell, the sound..and how it just seemed to be such an important part of their day.

As part of the series of manly activities, lets talk about wet shaving.

The Shaving Ritual, why rush it?

Shaving began losing its appeal the moment it started being treated in a “fast food” sort of fashion. Companies that sell convenience do so by treating the shave as something unpleasant that needs to be dealt with quickly. It doesn’t need to be so, and there’s nothing convenient about a second-rate shave. Advertising offering more and more blades on a razor and alcohol filled gels from aerosol cans have taken the ritual out of shaving and turned it into a burden. As far as electric shavers go…that’s just lazy and the shave truly is sub-par.

Fortunately, men the world over have started to rediscover not only the efficiency but the pleasure of an old-style wet shave. As with all other things, we take pride in doing and time to accomplish and master, wet shaving grants us benefits that outlast a smooth face. The morning shave becomes a time of solace and relaxation. A tradition to be passed on to our sons. A better way to start our day.

Elements of a Classic Shave

The secret to wet shaving is getting yourself a good double-edge razor or straight razor, shaving soap or cream and a shaving brush. Different people prefer different razors and with time you will find the one that works best for you. For starters a medium size, moderately priced, new razor will do the job. I personally use a double edge razor similar to what was common from the 1930’s till the mid 1960’s.

Buy shaving soap or cream from a reputable manufacturer. When you buy from an old English barbershop with 200 years of experience there’s no way to go wrong. As you develop your preferences you can start to experiment with newer brands. If you care for what goes into your shaving products, and ultimately your face and body, you might want to consider shaving soaps over creams because they have fewer preservatives. They also last longer. Stay away from the aerosol type gels and foams, they tend to be full of alcohol and actually dry out your face while you use them.

The shaving brush is the pivotal element of wet shaving. . The brush will massage and exfoliate your skin and the motion required to apply the soap will also lift your hair, preparing if for the shave. For a scrubbier feeling try a brush made of pure or best badger, for a soft touch super badger or silver tip will do the trick.  Trust me on this one, you will love how this works compared to rubbing cream on your face with your hands.

The Learning Curve

As with anything new to you, there will be a learning curve.  If trying a straight razor, it literally can cut through your jugular vein fast and painless as can be, so take your time and be gentle. Your face will thank you. If a double edged razor or safety razor as some call it is your choice, as mine is, there is as well a learning  curve to keeping your face in good shape.  Learning how to get a good lather with your cream or soap, learning to apply it and learning to slow things down and make multiple passes in the right direction are all part of this ritual. In time your morning (or evening as is the case with me) can easily take half hour or more. But why rush?  This is your face after all!

A Better Shave

A lot of us discovered wet shaving while looking for a way to deal with a tough and coarse beard. Wet shaving is not about being a snob, and certainly not a trend or fashion. It is a tradition that has outlasted fads, “revolutionary” solutions and any amount of blades held on plastic contraptions. Wet shaving is simply about a better shave with less irritation and fewer ingrown hairs. An old style double-edge razor or straight razor won’t pull the hairs and cut them below the level of the skin as is the case with multi-blade cartridges, therefore taking better care of your skin and your beard. Also, with an old style safety razor you have the luxury of choosing the sharpness of the blade; so you can find the one that fits you best. With the straight blade (cut throat) razors you can also sharpen the blade to your liking. So it all comes down to control, comfort and noticeably better results.

You will love the feel of your face, you will feel better having taken the time to properly shave…and women will love to touch your face! Best of all, you will keep the manly ritual of shaving your face a pleasure….not a burden.


The Art of Pipe Smoking

Hitched wrote another article, the guy has been on a role.

He write about a mutual passion and hobby of ours, pipe smoking. I urge every man to head down to the local tobacconist and purchase a pipe and any assortment of tobacco and delve into a meditation one puff at a time.

Smoking the pipe is so much more than just inhaling tobacco like a cigarette, but i’ll let him explain that.

This is the start of a string of articles aimed at manly hobbies and their benefits to the mind, body and soul of a man.

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A pipe in the mouth makes it clear that there has been no mistake–you are undoubtedly a man.”
-A. A. Milne

In the years since the rise of feminism, men have slowly lost manly traditions. Things and activities once enjoyed primarily by men have been scoffed at by women. One of these activities is pipe smoking. And no I’m not talking about weed in your pipe, I’m talking the pipe your Grandpa smoked. That sweet smelling smoke he lit up while relaxing reading the newspaper, or sitting in his armchair watching tv.  The pipe was part of his daily activities.

Maybe you’ve never known a man who smoked a pipe, so you don’t know what I’m talking about. Either way it doesn’t change the fact that pipe smoking is a manly activity worth bringing back, it is an art.

Pipes were very common amongst men back in the 30’s and 40’s and up pretty much until the the cigarette took over.  Men of all kinds smoked pipes, from farmers to executives. Today, men who smoke a pipe are taking part in a manly ritual that stretches back to the dawn of time and has continued unbroken to the present.  The pipe smoker belongs to a breed apart from other men. His pleasures are contemplation and relaxation; he does not rush, he is not nervous. His joys are the casual and meditative ones, those of the fireside, the easy chair, and the good book. The pipe stands as a symbol of this type of man, easily recognized by his even frame of mind, his unhurried approach to life’s problems. It is almost always just such a man who chooses a pipe as his path to smoking enjoyment.

Pipe smoking is as much ritual as it is relaxation. There’s a certain satisfaction you get when you pack the tobacco into the bowl just right. Then, the whoosh of the match followed by that wonderful, aromatic smell. Smoke a pipe with one of your favourite drinks in the comfort of your favourite armchair, and you’ve got the makings of a perfect evening.

Pipe smoking is not a habit. Done properly it is an intellectual experience. It is an aid to contemplation, a mellower of moods, a soother of the troubled mind and a friend to the common man. It makes philosophers ruffians and levels any field where two pipe smokers come together. No matter what their differences may be, they will always be able to sit together and enjoy a bowl of tobacco in peaceful harmony.

This is not having a “smoke break” with a cigarette.  In fact pipe tobacco smoke isn’t even inhaled.  Its savoured in the palate of your mouth.  Pipes can range from cheap corncob, to exquisite briarwood pipes. What you spend is totally up to you, but the experience will always be the same.

So go ahead, grab a pipe, some tobacco, matches and a scotch, and enjoy a manly tradition like no other.