Kidding, what a guy can’t make a joke on his own blog? Stop being so sensitive.
We’ll call him Hitched, for obvious reasons. Had a great idea for a post so i told him to write it up. Long story short, here it is.
There is a type of male that can sometimes be confused with being Alpha. Let’s refer to him as the “Alpha Poser”. We all know one or more of these guys. I personally know of one in particular, in which led me to jot down a list of differences.
At first glance he appears Alpha. He can appear to be decisive, he can lead, he’s cocky, overly confident, and an asshole. Many women will fall prey to this guy, confusing some of these qualities for the real deal. However it doesn’t take long before his true self comes shinning through, and unless they are a perpetual victim they will be turned off by him. His Alpha persona is driven by his deep seeded insecurities, which is easily pushed aside when he is confronted or provoked.
Lets breakdown the differences between this type of male and a true alpha male:
|ALPHA POSERS||TRUE ALPHA|
|Hot headed||Cool and aloof. Not easily provoked|
|Leads by intimidation||Inspires and attracts others, role model|
|Aggressive, with anger and physical intimidation||Assertive, clearly stating his opinion without intimidation|
|His way or the highway. Angrily insists his way is best. Rarely relaxed||Creates his own destiny in life. Not afraid of failure. Flexible, rolls with the punches|
|Overly cocky. A complete dick. Easily bent out of shape if challenged, the “Caring Asshole”||Confident and secure with himself and others. Detached from letting emotions run him, the “Uncaring Asshole”|
|Anti social for the most part unless the center of attention, in which he forces upon others. Hates people including himself||Makes connections with people, is generous. Has a commanding presence in a room.|
|Is a “tribal threat”. Picks on other men and women. Is a bully. domineering||Protects and leads the “tribe” leads by being naturally dominant. And the “tribe” in turns provide for his needs|
|Makes comments that make others uncomfortable||Funny and charming, attractive to anyone|
|Outcome dependent||Outcome independent|
Clearly the Alpha male is dominant, having a position of dominance; it’s not related exclusively to a person, but also a positionthat one holds (figuratively ie: Body Language). The alpha male is dominant and doesn’t need to force anyone to do anything. They willingly submit to him.
The “Alpha Poser” is domineering. The term always refers to a person and used to describe that person’s actions. Bullying is and example of domineering behaviour. It always has a negative connotation.