Schizophrenia of a Country

the-great-divide1Browsing Chateau Heartiste today i noticed that he tweeted (Link Bellow) a rather funny yet factual article about BC Canada’s law changes for live in partners of 2 years, basically Common Law partners. (Link Bellow) Basically this would give the Common Law couple the obligation to divide their assets should they split up after 2 years of cohabitation.

Now i’m not one to usually post about Men’s rights, the MRA movement or anything really related to that. But i just had to chuckle to myself as just weeks before, on the opposite end of Canada, the province of Quebec stated that they would not pass law to obligate partners (men) to pay spousal support to their partners (women) should they break off their common law relationship.

Most of the rest of Canada jumped in an uproar accusing Quebec of being old fashioned and behind the times. This is funny as Quebec has always been the most leftist province in Canada sporting the most social help programs than any other in this country, inducing the highest income tax rate to support all these programs.

But you’ve got to think. Are they really behind the times? Or maybe resistance to the status quo is just what society needs to kick the feminazi agenda square in the proverbial balls. It seems governments around the world are passing ridiculous laws in order to follow the majority so they don’t look like they stand out and aren’t labelled rebels. We all know the nail that sticks out gets hammered, well in the political machine there is nothing truer. Not following the trend may hurt political relationships between governments, other leaders may be inclined to withhold support of other leaders who’s views may differ from their own policies, and so on and so forth.

I don’t side with Quebec very often… actually never, even when being French Canadian, but for this i gotta give a major Kudos to the Quebec Government.

Eventually they’ll fold, but resistance is always the start of a revolution.

CH Tweet

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Vancouver Sun Article, BC law article

Globe And Mail Article, Quebec Law article


Welcome to the Land of Khaan

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The Great Khan

Mongolia has always been a country that has fascinated me way back to my early childhood when i had to present a project on the great Chinggis Khan. So when i was given the opportunity to go work in this great country, I swallowed it up whole.

But i have to reverse a year or two ago, I read the Naughty Nomad’s review of Ulaan Baator and at the time was highly disappointed  Fast forward to when i accepted the position, I immediately thought of his article (Link Below) and i was hoping it wasn’t true, and that he had just had a fluke of a bad time.

Now that i’ve been here a reasonable amount of time (over a month) i can honestly say that i’m glad his article is only mostly right. His facts of the place is spot on, this place isn’t like anywhere you’ve ever experienced  the girls are bar none some of the best in the world, beer is only $2 and the Gran Khan Irish Pub does serve some pretty good food. But that’s where the similarities end in my personal experience.

There are only two people that matter in this country, Chinggis Kahn and Sukhbaatar, remember that.

Let’s start with the daily life. Traffic in UB is absolutely chaotic, throw in a few inches of snow and you have a living nightmare, it is surprising to see the shear amount of high priced cars rolling around as well as the lack of vehicular accidents, i’d say about 95% of cars don’t even have a dent in them. All this makes crossing roads one hell of a sport. Usually you take it one lane at a time with cars, trucks and buses passing by at mere centimeters from you. The first few day this really makes your adrenaline pumping. Food is generally good if you stay with my western cuisine restaurants. Although Mongolian cuisine isn’t bad, it does get some getting used to if you aren’t into eating horse, tongues or livers. That being said most of the downtown area, especially south of Sukhbaatar Square, is pretty expat friendly and it is where you’ll find most of the western cuisine restaurants. Service in restaurants can be lacking, you really have to go old school and wave over the servers, though the service you do get is good, and food generally take a while to get to you, so plan on being there a while and downing a good 2 beers before you food arrives. Though meals are cheaper than what you are used to, prices have still risen by 60% since 2007 which is generally really expensive for the locals.

The city has a great mix of Traditional, Soviet and Western Architecture and seeing it all come together is kind a unique experience. Though there are a few things to look out for in UB. Avoid man holes at all costs, locals steal man hole covers to bring the metal to the scrap yard for cash, the holes can then get filled with rain water and if you aren’t watching out, down you go, or also the covers can just give way and again, down you go. Avoid taking taxis, there are just one good company in the city that wont try to rip you off and i forget the name of the company. The rest will try their hardest to screw you and most don’t have meters to keep track. But as a general rule if they ask you to pay anything close to 20,000T or more they are ripping you off. Never take the bus…. lots of pick pockets on the buses. Watch where you keep your money, there are a lot of pick pockets in town and they are resourceful and feisty. A girl i know was taking the bus and she kept the zipper buckle of her purse close to her and in few at all times, the pickpocket was still able to open the “non openable” side of her purse and steal her wallet. If you see someone being pick pocketed, keep you mouth shut, warning the person he’s is about to get mugged is a sure way to get to the hospital. Different pickpocket gangs work different districts of the city, the cops know about all this but there is hardly anything they can do about it, or just wont do about it. Stay away from stray dogs… there are a ton of stray dogs and a lot of them have rabies. Also, stay away from the Russian district… this one is self explanatory.

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Ya, that’ll save you

Let’s move on to the night life. The Orange bar…. well not much to say about this one, go there if you want to see boobs. The Grand Khan is definitely the expat hangout of choice and gets pretty lively at nights, i’ve had no problems going there alone and just meeting, sitting and drinking with random groups of people, expats and nationals alike. Though you’ll find most expats at the GK, there is still a good amount of local girls that frequent this pub as well. There is a nightclub in the basement of the Central Tower downtown just south, i was there for a bit but quickly left as it’s really not my style. Though if you are into that kind of thing, i’m sure you’ll enjoy yourself. Casablanca’s is another expat hot spot, it just isn’t happening there anymore. But it has some of the best pizza in town.

This is called having 30 Human Power

This is called having 30 Human Power

As for girls, i’ve never been into asian girls, but Mongolian girls aren’t just asian girls. They have a great a great mix to them and quite a bit of diversity in their body and facial characteristics. Some lean more towards a white, Russian look with a nice sprinkle of asian while other do look more Chinese. But there is a great variety of skin tone and hair, from the frizzy to the straight. What they all have in common though is their big high cheek bones. There are also no really fat or obese girls here. Some of the fattest girls i’ve seen are a western chubby at most. Though this doesn’t automatically make them all beautiful, just the odds are there. I have found them all to be really open and approachable with complete lack of a bitch shield. My best most successful pick up line here, “Hi.” And thats everywhere, the bar, the store, the street… they are all more than happy to chit chat with you. They do err on the side of caution and take about a week to really warm up to you, but when they get there they are more than willing to knock boots with you. Getting laid here isn’t hard at all. A part of that might be due to hypergamy as expats here make considerably more than the nationals and are generally in the positions of power. The women here haven’t been ruined by the bowels of feminism yet. For them feminism is going out and smoking pot or smokes as the older generation women look down upon that kind of behavior. They keep themselves up and take pride in their appearance, as well, they are surprisingly fashionable. They are pretty submissive, subservient and very feminine. They are the best Asia has to offer.

The men here to get jealous of you hitting on their women, they are kind of over protective that way. But generally speaking i haven’t had any issues with any of them and they usually are pretty friendly.

The people in rural Mongolia are even more friendly. Regular city friendliness times 100.

Its an absolutely gorgeous country, you should all come check it out yourselves.

And remember this. That massage place in the basement of your hotel…. ya it’s a rub n tug. And if you ask they’ll do more then just tug.

Not quite downtown

Looking towards not quite downtown

Links

The Naughty Nomad – Ulaan Baator


Slumping It Up!

Slumps….

Yes slumps…we all have them… No question that at one point in time in your life, you’ll start to slump, whether it be work, gym or girls. I was in such a predicament earlier this year. Seemed not much was going my way and besides the old faithfuls, i wasn’t getting any new pussy. These are the times that separate the men from the wannabies.

Getting out of a slump is easy said, but it does take a moral and emotional toll, the best way i found to get through those is a change of scenery, a mental reboot. Go camping, road trip, sun destination, change work locations, ski weekends, surf weekends, whatever gets you out of your routine, your day to day life and a bit of your comfort zone. Use this time to relax, do things you want to do alone or with a select few you want to do it with. try to avoid big groups of people, this is “You” time and use it to reconnect yourself. Literally this reboots you brain, cleans the dust off your motherboard and adds more RAM if you will. I won’t delve into the psychology of it all, i like to keep my posts short clean and simple, but fuck, when did doing your body mind and soul good become an exact science anyway.

You just got to buckle down, don’t sweat it and live life for you and the rest will figure itself out. And rebooting yourself is just one great tool to get out of a slump. Remember the best things come when you aren’t searching for it. Searching makes you desperate, if you make it a passive goal to achieve, where everything you do has a positive effect on achieving this side goal, in no time this goal will have been achieved.

In the end YOU are the goal, everything else are just peripherals.


Speaking of Truths….

This woman and song is full of them….

 


Patience, or Lack Thereof

You can never underestimate the lack of patience in today’s society. An apparent fact that becomes all too real every so often.

This happens often in today’s day and age as our instant world shoves instant products in our mouths in order to get instant gratification. As a society we’ve lost all patience for anything that doesn’t happen right now, which have also made us lose appreciation for pretty much all things in life. With today’s computers giving us answers and information sought in nano seconds, and the media and advertisements selling us products to make every task as fast as possible, with instant coffee, instant messaging, fast food and ATM machines we’ve become accustomed to getting everything we want right fucking now at any moment in any day at a simple whim. Multitasking to the extreme, face hundreds of problems and solve hundreds other problems every day. This have shattered the collective patience of our society, and if by some chance we cannot get what we want right fucking now, we get mad, lose patience and move on to the next thing that’ll give us that same or similar gratification.

Which brings me to my next point.

Every so often, i return home from a long business trip, only to realize the girl i was seeing had “moved on.” Moved on? Really? In only 2, 3, 7 or 14 days? Apparently so. Which raises a conundrum for men in my situation. The general consensus is that courting girls requires time and patience as you don’t want to appear desperate. If i don’t push a little she quickly looses patience and moves on to something that is more “right now” yet if i do push a little harder in order to get more of a bond to last over a business trip i get labelled as desperate. Therefore finding the right balance is key, i find, and to achieve this i’ve noticed that what i chose to do with her directly affects where i stand in her scale of desperate/interesting/waste of time. Personally i’ve had to find things that would make us share a greater intellectual/emotional bond, this would allow me not to press her to spend more time together, and it would keep her interest levels high enough to last through long business trips.

Experiment with different activities, and find your sweet spot.


The “Real” Date

Oh as i was stretching my blogging legs and wondering what to write about i was reading Aneroidocean’s latest post Frailty. He mentioned at the end of the post how one of the girls he’s seeing a validation of commitment. This reminded me of a quick exchange i had in the not so distant past circa 2011.

After finishing a nice romp in the sack with a girl i was seeing at the time, i was just about to fall asleep until i hear.

Girl: So when are you going to take me on a real date.

Me: What are you talking about?

G: You know, go out in public, watch a movie go for diner.

M: I work out of town, when i come back i don’t like the hassle of more restaurants and hitting the town.

G: But you go to the pub with the guys.

M: That’s right

G: All we do is have sex.

M: What are you talking about, we went out and had a date our first time together.

G: That wasn’t a date, i paid for all your drinks.

M: So.

G: I just want to go out on a real date where you treat me.

M: …….

G: Fine, no sex until i get a real day.

M: Fine.

I turnaround and passed out. 6 am the next morning i was gone and i’ve never spoken to her again. I can tolerate a lot of shit, but that’s one thing i definitely do not tolerate, the “no sex” threat. My mom always told me “Lost, as soon as a women threatens you with no sex, kick her to the curb.” Now thats the soundest piece of advice i’ve ever received from a woman.

It just goes to show, that sooner or later they all look to put that commitment stamp on it, whatever means necessary.


Cutting your Losses

Often, there comes a time where you need to cut your losses and turn your back on the girl you’ve been pursuing. This point can come within minutes or hours, or the point of no return can come months later.

The reason this is coming up, is because i am at one of these points right now with a girl i’ve been seeing. And i’ve been dragged far beyond my line of no return than i’d like to admit. I think the reason i let myself get to this point is two fold, one, i haven’t met a girl that i’ve meshed with mentally for a very long time, and i guess i got overly excited, two, we started it off so well, everything was text book and she was investing way more into me than i would into her and so on. I also indirectly broke her ankle and she still paid the rounds at the bar that very night.

I’m pretty sure my demised was sealed due to my work schedule when she ushered the words

“Every time you come back, it’s like i have to get to know you all over again.”

I should of probably seen it coming after that, the slight loss in interest, hindsight is after all 20/20, but i let it continue for a couple more turnarounds (the term we use to illustrate our time spent at home) when i should of just spent my time and energy towards other interests.

Though she still seems interested, its way below the level of interest i’d like it to be.

Live and learn, to have clear boundaries and the willpower to follow those without fail is my lesson for the month.

On a brighter note, one door closes 3 more open….. literally.

Later days


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